Jain philosophy has a concept called *anekāntavāda* — the doctrine of many-sidedness, the recognition that any complex thing is simultaneously true from multiple standpoints and cannot be fully captured from any single one. Jain logicians developed this not as a polite pluralism but as a strict epistemological claim: your view isn't incomplete because you're uninformed; it's incomplete because you're located. A parent is always located — in their own history, their own exhaustion, their own fear about who this child is becoming. The Jain insight applied here is oddly liberating: the moment your child's behavior baffles or frustrates you, that bafflement is data about your vantage point, not a failure of your parenting. What you're seeing is real. It just isn't the whole object. The practical move isn't to somehow see everything at once — that's impossible — but to pause and ask: what angle am I standing at right now, and what angle is my child standing at? Not to merge them, but to hold both simultaneously without collapsing one into the other. That's the actual cognitive work of parenting mental fitness: not achieving calm, but sustaining double vision.

In the last argument or stand-off with your child, what did the situation look like from exactly their spatial and emotional position — not what they should have felt, but what they likely did feel given where they were standing?

Drawing from Jain Epistemology (Anekāntavāda) — Mahavira / classical Jain logicians (Syādvāda tradition, developed systematically by Kundakunda and later Hemachandra)